Posted on Nov 10, 2016 by Christina

Love Letters with Elle C. || Vol. I

Dear Elle,

Everyone I know has a significant other. It seems like I am the only one of my friends who isn't in a long term relationship, or even close to dating seriously. What am I doing wrong?

- Significantly Single

Dear Significantly Single,

Your friends sound boring AF.

Juuuuust kidding, but I can totally relate to how you feel. When everyone else around you seems to find love, you start to question why you haven't. Then, you ask yourself why you're not capable of finding love, what's wrong with you, why you're not even interested in finding love right now, blah blah blah, until you feel so sh*tty that you just don't know what's wrong with you.

Pause and take a deep breath, because nothing is wrong with you! Everyone moves at their own paces in life; some people are married and have kids by at 25, while others still act like kids at 25. You never need to compare yourself, your interests, and your life to anyone else, so never let that thought get you down, okay?

And if your friends are making less time for you because of their SO's, there are a few options to help fix that:

  1. Tell your friends that you want to spend time with them without their SO's because quality time together is precious and meaningful to you!
  2. Learn to hang out with your friend and their SO - obviously, your friends like you and your friends like their SOs, so you must have something in common, right?
  3. Make new friends! Sure, we're with Drake when it comes to #nonewfriends, but there are plenty of fun and interesting people you've yet to meet, so why not explore and see who else is out there waiting to become friends with such an awesome person like you? Don't ditch your old friends though, because you're not looking for replacements; you're looking for additions.

Lastly, take this time to find out who you are and what you like/dislike in all aspects of your life. Once you find love, you'll answer to someone else (not that it's a bad thing), but this is your time to be selfish and just live. Go out, meet new people, dance the night away, get a free drink, take a CPR certification class just 'cause you can. Your love life shouldn't limit you, and you shouldn't limit it either.

And who knows? Maybe when you're out exploring and just doing you, you'll stumble upon someone new and interesting. Good luck babe!


Elle C.

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